WHAT CAN YOU EXPECT TO GAIN?

The effects of sex coaching are powerful and life-changing benefits that far outlast any coaching relationship. You will gain resolutions to the sexual concerns that brought us together as well as the awareness and skills to prevent you from selling yourself short and giving up on your potential in other areas of your life.

When we work together, you can expect to achieve:

Greater sexual confidence and communication skills You will experience a powerful surge of self-confidence and a belief that you can have your desires and needs met and understood when you communicate with courage, clarity and compassion. Playing safe is sometimes worlds away from being happy and finding the confidence to speak up about what you want increases your trust in yourself and gives you an awareness of how it feels to take control and exercise the power and influence that you have within you.

Being responsible for your feelings - making choices from a position of authenticity. Feeling in control of your sexual happiness means being responsible for the part you play in creating a sexual relationship. It is not going to help you to give up control in your sex life by refusing to ask for what you want. When you take control of your life, you realise that you have far more power than you might have thought. As soon as you stop blaming other people for your dissatisfaction, you will develop the compassion for yourself and your sexual partner that makes change happen by collaboration and personal change rather than by force, threats and belligerence. When you develop trust in your own ability to handle whatever comes your way, then taking responsibility becomes liberating rather than a source of anxiety.

Better and more enjoyable relationships.

Sexual communication difficulties often reflect communication difficulties in the relationship in general. Sometimes our work may need to address your relationship itself as well as your sexual fulfilment within that relationship. Your relationship shapes the state of your sexual situation and vice versa. Do not worry if only one of you want to change. As soon as you start to change, your relationship will be different. Your newfound confidence, certainty, courage and conviction will let your partner know that she or he needs to start paying attention to what is happening without you having to demand their participation. You cannot make someone else change. You can change yourself, which can make the other person want to join you on your journey. Sex coaching is flexible enough to incorporate relationship concerns and robust enough to tackle what needs to be said to make sexual fulfilment happen for you.

Greater sexual fulfilment.

You will know that what goes on in your mind affects how your body responds and experience a sense of ease about your sexual behaviour. You will have worked out that orgasm and / or erection concerns can be successfully managed by learning about different sexual techniques and addressing the beliefs and rules you have been holding onto, which have undermined your sexual happiness.

Reconnection with your sexual self.

You will know who you are as a sexual being and feel an upsurge in your sexual desire and become more interested in sex. When you know and accept yourself sexually, you become open to the sexual experiences that are right for you. You will recognise that focusing on pleasing another person is not the most successful strategy in creating great sex. Sex is a mixture of both generosity and selfishness. You will refuse to sell yourself short by concentrating on the other person's pleasure at the expense of your own.

Increased self-acceptance.

You can expect to accept your body as it is or find the desire to make changes if that is what you want. You will find that you focus more on mutual pleasure and no longer sabotage your sexual life with self-criticism and performance anxieties. Accepting yourself means that you can experience both greater desire and become more desirable.

Recognise that we are all entitled to experience our ultimate sex goals.

You will create a vision of your ideal sex life and be working towards the changes that will make this possible. It is not always easy to stand up for what you believe but working with me will help you find the courage to ask for what you want and to feel good about exploring your unique version of sexual happiness.

Letting go of blame

You experience the confidence and empowerment that comes when you recognise that you are responsible for your sexual fulfilment. It is unreasonable and counter-productive to expect another person to 'give' you great sex without any help from you!

Increased self-esteem.

Learning that what we look like is irrelevant to our capacity for sexual fulfilment is a great liberator for many people. You can learn how to be kinder to yourself, how to love what and who you are and to stop self-criticism and judgemental comparisons spoiling your sex life.

Explore your sexual fantasies and develop a new sexual persona.

Being willing to notice and indulge your sexual fantasies is a very effective way of improving your sexual happiness. Shame and embarrassment about your fantasy life is not something that you have to hold on to; you can choose to know and express who you are and what turns you on.

The ability to manage your anxiety during sex

Many sexual problems are perpetuated because of the anxiety that they generate. Men who are worried about getting or keeping an erection, or women who are really 'trying' to orgasm, will find that their anxiety impairs their sexual response. Working to reduce anxiety can be as beneficial as learning physical techniques to delay ejaculation. There are many options to explore and learning about what causes your anxiety is a valuable personal growth experience, which will benefit your life in general.

Now that you are aware of the many great benefits that you can achieve, go to ABOUT ME to find out more about me: who I am, how I coach and what I stand for.

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