If you like what you have read so far, take a moment to find out a little more about who I am and what makes me so passionate about coaching people to create sexual fulfilment.

Follow Your Own Rules!

We live in a society in which there is a lot of misinformation and shallow communication about sex. Ideas of what is appropriate and what are the 'proper' ways to be sexual are prolific and damaging. We are all different and we must each of us take the time and the courage to decide upon our own sexual rules and values. Genuine and authentic sexual expression comes from a place of power and control. I work with my clients to get them to feel comfortable in this place and to respect their own integrity and values.

I have spent years talking, writing and reading about sexuality.

I have a degree in English from the University of Cambridge, a degree in Psychology from London Guildhalll University and a PhD in Gender and Culture from the University of Manchester. This means that I have built up an enormous amount of expertise and understanding that I am able to put into practice with my clients when dealing with the many things that can go wrong with sex. It also means that I have heard almost everything that is to hear about sex and am very comfortable discussing people's sexual concerns and desires in a respectful, compassionate, playful and challenging manner. Rest assured that everything that you say to me during a session is confidential.

I decided to set up my sex coaching practice ARAGON COACHING, after graduating with distinction from The Coaching Academy in 2005.

I am amazed that sex coaching is an area that so few coaches choose to work in, despite the fact that sex is a universal experience and one that, for many people, is fraught with anxieties, uncertainty, fear and guilt. Sexual empowerment means living and generating your own sexual energy from a position of power, certainty and awareness. It means knowing what you want and knowing that it is possible to get what you need

People's sex lives tend to be a mixture of both light and shade.

The fun part is looking into the light and imagining what you want to be there. It can be more of a challenge to explore the dark side but often you need to address what you most want, which may be also what you are most afraid of, before you can move forward.

I now work with people who have made all sorts of different relationship choices.

You might be single, married, in long-term relationships or in a series of casual relationships. I will not judge or limit your sexual explorations.

MY APPROACH

Working with me can be fun. Sex need not always be a serious business. Play and light-heartedness are great additions to both sex and coaching. You are likely to address some challenging concerns and tackle some stubborn beliefs in our work together, but these will not get in the way of a coaching relationship that is challenging, tough (when it needs to be) and powerfully effective.

I expect that my clients are going to commit fully to the coaching process and in return I take my responsibility as your coach seriously. I am available for e-mail and brief telephone conversations between sessions. Neither your successes nor any occasional anxieties have to be dealt with alone.

THERE ARE SO MANY COACHES TO CHOOSE FROM, WHAT MAKES YOU DIFFERENT?I am the first UK life coach to choose to work supporting people to find sexual empowerment, live up to their sexual potential and find their own ideal sexual happiness.

When you have sexual concerns, you need to be able to work through them with somebody who is not going to judge, be critical, dismissive or disapproving of your feelings thoughts and actions. I encourage people to accept their entitlement to ask for what they want and keep in touch with their own desires without these being overwhelmed and distorted by worrying about what other people might think. Being grounded as a person enables you to focus on yourself rather than stressing about how your behaviour matches up to someone else's standards. It gives you strength, courage and convictions and these will stay with you long after our coaching relationship has ended.

What's the difference between a sex coach and a sex therapist?

As a sex coach, the relationship that I have with my clients is one of equals, of joint collaborators.

My job is not to tell you what to do. My responsibility is to enable you to find your own resolutions and develop your own sexual style. You work on taking actions towards what you want, rather than focusing on understanding the past. The language of sex coaching is that you are a client with a sexual concern; you are not a patient with a dysfunction and you learn to take responsibility for fixing yourself, with support from your coach.

I see sex as a holistic experience. Any form of sexual expression reflects who you are as a person.

It is about revealing who you are - your values, beliefs, feelings and the emotions that you bring with you into every sexual encounter. These are the parts of you that are open to change. My work as a coach brings together sex, self and spirit so that you can approach sex with the knowledge that the physical, emotional and spiritual are each important in clarifying and exploring what sexual happiness is for you.

Sex is about being able to express and communicate who you are on the deepest level to another person.

Of course, sometimes the sex that you want might be only physical and that's fine. I am not here to tell you what sex is but I am committed to freedom of sexual expression. Doing what is right for you not always the same as what someone else tells you is right! For some that might be wanting to experiment with different types of sexual experiences, for others it might be about learning how to improve your communication with your partner and feel emotionally and spiritually connected. The choices are yours!

WHAT NEXT?

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