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WELCOME TO THE SEPTEMBER ISSUE OF VENTURESQUE
 
gold banner     THE HOT SPOTS ISSUE
 
Welcome to all of my new subscribers and a warm greeting to all of my regular readers.
 
It's been a busy month; looking at houses, continuing to try and sell ours (we are awaiting an offer - hopefully) NOT looking at nurseries for Eden and preparing for our annual summer jaunt down to London to visit family and friends. I say jaunt but I'm not really sure how much jaunting we'll be doing with a 13 month old baby tagging along for the ride.
 
Venturesque is focusing on pleasure and the idea of sexual hot spots. Are there areas of sexual anatomy that can guarantee unbridled pleasure?
 
 My Top Tip concerns a 'new' area of female sexual anatomy that has recently been gaining a lot of attention ,the PS SPOT.
The main article concentrates on finding his sexual pleasure zones. 
The Sex Question asks what's your sexual turning point? 
 
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DR TARA'S TOP TIP : THE PS SPOT

Women's sexual hotspots are subject to trends and fashions. The G Spot dominated popular beliefs about being a woman's 'special' sex place for decades. However research into female sexuality continues and there is now a new place to go - the PS Spot. 
 
Time for an anatomy lesson! PS stands for perineal sponge, an area of erectile tissue which is between the vaginal opening and anus and just beneath the perineum (the skin between the vagina and anus).To put in plainer language, think of it as being opposite the G spot. The G spot is on the front wall of the vagina, the PS spot can be found on the lower back vaginal wall. Because it is erectile tissue, it will become engorged with blood when the person is aroused, just as the penis and clitoris do. The PS spot is sensitive to pressure and massage via the lower vaginal wall, the perineum or the anus. Stroking alone is unlikely to work as the PS spot is beneath the surface so needs pressure in order to respond. 
The best way to reach it is with a sex toy or fingers. Imagine using fingers to reach the G spot; your fingers are curved slightly upwards and palm facing you. Turn your hand 180 degrees and there is the PS spot. Or there it might be. Not very woman is sensitive in the same areas as other women are.


 

 
Where are a man's most sensitive areas? 
 
 
The P Spot. Most people are familiar with at least the idea that the prostate gland is a highly sensitive area of the male sexual anatomy. It is VERY sensitive to pressure and stimulation. To reach it, insert a finger into his anus (lubed first), palm up and aiming for his belly button.
 
The Frenulum is the band of connective tissue on the underside of the penis that keeps the foreskin in place. (It may be totally or partially removed during circumcision). It generally responds enthusiastically to any tongue action during oral sex and in fact to any kind of sexual stimulation.
 
The U Spot is the skin around the urethral opening in the head of the penis. Some men are very sensitive in this area, as are a number of women. The female U Spot has been well catalogued.
 
The Raphe. Sometimes called the perineal or penile raphe, this is the name given to the ridge or seam that can be felt on the underside of the penis. It runs from the frenulum down the shaft, starting where the foreskin is attached to the penis, through the midline of the scrotum and extending to the anus. Many men report enjoying the sensation of a thumb or finger moved in very small circles around it from top to bottom.



 

 

 

THE SEX QUESTION - what's your sexual turning point?
 
Often in coaching my clients and I will spend some time reflecting upon the impact of the past upon the present. Usually, we evaluate past relationships on extremes of good and bad times and the way that they ended. This ignores the complexities of our connections with other people. Looking back at a client's sexual history and reframing events can emphasise the amount of learning and personal growth that any relationship or sexual experience generates. Do we allow the past to contaminate our present or can we see the positives that we gained from what happened?
 
Many of us have unknowingly composed a sexual narrative of our lives. We arrange what was confusing and complex and scattered and try to make it whole, complete and logical. From a coaching perspective, what is interesting is searching for the turning points that people select and the interpretations that they give them. In everyone's lives there are turning points; events that lead to a new awareness and insight and a determination to change our behaviour. What have been your sexual turning points? What made you rethink things? Perhaps you could benefit from reviewing how you changed your partner choices, your sexual behaviour, the way you relate emotions and sexuality, how you view your own body as a sexual vehicle?
 
If you find this difficult, write or think about yourself in the third person. See yourself as a character in a story and describe the meaningful sexual events in 'your' life and how they changed the person or the people involved. Try and identify 3 key turning points that have made you the sexual person that you are today. Are you happy being this person? What would you like to change?

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You have been reading a newsletter lovingly crafted by me, Dr Tara Few, The UK Sex Coach. I work as a sex, relationship and singles coach. 
 
Sex coaching helps you to make sex about pleasure not performance. You can increase your confidence, calm your sexual anxieties, explore your sexual style and remove the emotional and physical blocks that might reduce your capacity for sexual and sensual pleasure. I work with people who have chosen to do all that they can to make their ideal sex life a reality.
 
Relationship coaching helps you to communicate more successfully, reduces conflict and enables you to understand your own and your partner's needs, priorities and desires by working out what's not working, what needs to change and how to move forward.  It is also about fun and excitement and discovering things about yourself and each other that you never knew.  My clients are people who feel that something important is missing from their relationship and who often aren't sure whether the relationship is worth saving.
 
Singles coaching will help you to reflect upon the role that you want a relationship to play in the new and exciting life that you will make for yourself. Are YOU ready for a relationship? Well find out.  I work with people who want to build their self-knowledge, self-esteem and to massively increase their confidence, optimism, purpose and joy in life. 

               
WOULD YOU LIKE TO WORK WITH ME? 
 
 
I coach individuals and couples to get in touch with what makes them sexually happy, confident and fulfilled, resolve relationship dissatisfactions and help  you to discover a life full of hope, passion and purpose.
 
 
Sex, relationship and singles coaching helps you to examine your life, your relationship (or lack of one) and sexual satisfaction and enables you to bring back optimism, courage and direction to the sex life you create and the person you want to become. 
 
 
GET YOUR SELF, YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND YOUR SEX LIFE BACK IN BALANCE.
 
The first step is easy.
 
Get in touch with me now to arrange a free consultation.
 
If you know that your sex life is making you feel frustrated and frustrating, bored and boring, undesirable and without desire, then get in touch to arrange a time for us to talk. I offer a free 20-30 minute consultation, in which we can get to know each other better and decide how well we might work together.
 
Almost all sexual problems are resolvable when you face up to where your sex life is going wrong. You can choose not to settle for second-best and to make your sex life about confidence, pleasure and play rather than sadness, resentment and disappointment.
 
 
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I would love to hear any comments, suggestions about issues you would like to read about in future and I am happy to answer reader questions in future newsletters.
I will never limit your sexual potential and fully support all forms of sexual behaviour between consenting adults.
 
 
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