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THE 12 TOYS OF CHRISTMAS
A Sex Toy is for Life, not just for Christmas
1. The Jessica Rabbit. Perhaps the most well-known known - and probably the best - of all the vibrators and with good reason. It has different speeds, vibrations and rotations and finding your optimum combination is a fun way to spend your time. Many men tell me they assume that women use vibrators vaginally but actually the majority of women use their vibrator externally, against the clitoris. If you are a woman who usually only uses a vibrator externally, try inserting it and you may find yourself experiencing a range of very different sexual sensations. There is also a Junior version if the standard one seems too bulky and large and there is a G-spot version also available.
 2. The Magic Bullet - vibrator for couples. This small and colourful toy is popular with couples because it does not look like a penis, many men seem to find them more appealing for sex play with their partner. It has 7 speeds and is very powerful for something so small. Very discreet, looks a bit like a lipstick.
3. The Sqweel is an original design for a toy that simulates oral sex. It has a wheel of 10 'tongues' that are made from soft silicone and lap with gentle or rougher action, depending on the speed you select (tease - insistent - intense) Very discreet and very portable. Its designer, Trevor Murphy, says that it's for men and women and can be used anywhere you'd like to be excited by the feel of a soft, wet tongue.
4. The Magic Cock Ring has all the benefits of a cock ring along with a removable mini vibrator. Essentially, a cock ring helps to retain blood in the penis, so leading to a large and firm erection. This one has nobbles and spikes (rubber!) on the ring that stimulate the shaft and the clitoris. By keeping the ring constantly in touch with the clitoris, powerfully sexual sensations build without being dissipated by a thrusting in and out motion, so try using a circular and more grinding motion to rack up the intensity. Don't forget never to wear for longer than 30 minutes, with a 20 minutes maximum as ideal and safest.
5. The iBuzz Two vibrator is designed, you guessed it, to be music activated and used with an iPod. The original was bulky and designed to allow anyone a party in their pants as they were dancing or walking down the street or anything. This newer model can be used alone or as a couple. Plug in 2 sets of headphones and you can both listen to music and enjoy the sensations of a rabbit-style bullet vibrator for her and a cock ring for him. In music mode, your music will dictate the rhythm and in pattern mode, you can select from 4 different vibration patterns. The speed mode has 11 alternative speeds.
6. The Dream Egg is a remote controlled toy with a range of 15 feet. It offers a range of pulses and speeds and great for sharing. It's very girly, very pink and very powerful.
7. Anal Beads are a fun and gentle introduction to anal play and let you discover whether you enjoy the sensations and want to go further into exploring anal pleasure. The beads will be on a string made of silicone, start small and get larger. The idea is to insert them and then pull out at the point of orgasm.
8. Bondage Kits come in beginner kits to let couples explore soft bondage games. They include blindfolds, ties and maybe tape/handcuffs. Being tied up and the dominant-submissive sexual dynamic is one of the most popular fantasies for both sexes. Playing out tie-up games means that you will try new moves and are moving out of the safety of routine and into the heady world of sexual unpredictability, where you may discover your partner has some new moves that surprise and delight you.
9. The We-Vibe is a toy that stimulates clitoris and the G-spot as, when it's inside, one end vibrates against the G-spot and the other snuggles against the clitoris. Its major innovation is that a man can penetrate you whilst you are wearing it so both of you benefit from the buzzing sensations it generates.
10. The Flip Hole Masturbator is a masturbation sleeve that is encased in a tube, which flips open. Insert your penis and apparently there is a very soft base that feels very real. There are 3 buttons to press on the tube that generate squeezing and sucking sensations at different points along the shaft.
11. The Fleshlight looks almost exactly like a torch and is similar to the Flip Hole in intention, in that it has been designed to replicate penetrative sex with a woman. It's a soft, non-vibrating sleeve and delivers very realistic sensations. You heat the sleeve under warm water, add lube and you're off. There is a specific Stamina Training Unit model that promises to improve your sexual endurance. I can't vouch for the success of such claims though.
 12. Aneros MGX Prostate Massager is, I should imagine, self-explanatory in its aim. Stimulation of the prostate is associated with intense and powerful male orgasms. This toy can be worn during intercourse as well.
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